Q: “How do I know if I’m a dom, a sub, both, or neither? I feel like I’m supposed to have an answer already.”
Luna: You’re not supposed to have it figured out — that pressure is coming from somewhere outside you, not from any actual requirement. Some people know instantly, some take years, some never land on a single label and that’s just as valid.
Try small things and pay attention to what you gravitate toward, without needing to name it yet. The label, if you even want one, tends to show up on its own once you’ve actually got some experience to base it on — not before.